I don’t know about you, but for me, I feel like superwoman on the days when I have successfully completed all that was on my to do list. It takes a lot of strength and energy to manage a home and all the activities for your family. As I have aged and gained wisdom through the years, I have learned how to better serve my family in the busyness of each day. It is always changing and there are periods of adapting as we go through new seasons. But what has worked best for me and my stress level is to focus on one day at a time.
I used to carry the burden of many days on my shoulders, but I quickly realized that it was just too much to bear. The scripture verse, “Come to me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” in Matthew 11:28 often came to my mind. I felt weighed down by the stress of all that had to be done in a week and craved time with Jesus so that I could be restored.
I would often call my grandmother and vent to her about how much I had to do. She always responded with this little nugget of wisdom that she learned from my great grandmother. She would say, “well honey, if tomorrow never comes then it didn’t matter anyway.”
With grandma’s help, I learned to focus on today. That quote has been ingrained in my mind over the years and has helped to keep things in perspective. Sometimes I would let myself get so bent out of shape over not getting to that basket of laundry or going to bed with dishes in the sink, but in the grand scheme of things, was that important? I could only do what one day would allow.
Grandma’s words of wisdom reminded me of the verse in Matthew 6:34, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It was clear that I would have to change my focus as each week came to reduce my stress and burdens. I have learned to break up my tasks over the week so that I do not tire out and then within each week, I take it one day at a time.
In my household, on Sundays I go over the whole week ahead with my family. This keeps us all on the same page as far as what needs accomplished and any events or activities that we need to get to. Then as Monday comes, we focus on the day before us. Before bed, I look at the next day just so I can make any preparations needed. I still use pen and paper and write out our schedule on a calendar so that everyone in the house can review it as they wish. I review our day each morning to remind myself what needs completed and then I get to work. If I can’t check off everything, then grandma’s quote comes into play. We try to do our best to accomplish everything, but sometimes things come up or a need for quality time together is more important. My grandma taught me what really matters in life, and I will hold onto her wisdom for the rest of my days.