Same-Sex-Attraction

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Ron Hutcraft logoNot many parents can sleep very soundly until they know their children are in for the night. My wife and I always asked our big, teenage guys to stop by our room no matter how late it was and let us know they were home. Some of the most beautiful words in the English language to us were: "Mom, Dad, I'm home." Isn't it natural to want to 'fix' on where your kids are? Maybe you know a child who is way over due. I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Four Principles to Remember When Your Child is Far From Home." copyright ©2015 Ronald P. Hutchcraft   CLICK HERE to read more...

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 ARTICLES

BOOKS (available in Grace Church library)

  • Out of a Far Country by Christopher Yuan and Angela Yuan, © 2011.  Their personal story, his journey to God, her search for hope.
  • If I tell you I am gay, will you still love me? A mother's journey to truth and love by Ann Mobley © 2013. In this book, the author hopes to help other families understand loved ones who are homosexual find personal, Biblical answers to their questions, and experience God's love and peace. Included are the findings of the author's quest to understand the root influencers toward homosexuality. 
  • The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert - An English Professor's Journey into Christian Faith by Rosaria Butterfield ©2012.  At the age of 28, Rosaria Butterfield boldly declared herself a lesbian.  By 36 she was one of the few tenured women at a large research university, a rising administrator and a community activist.  That same year Christ claimed her for Himself and the life that she had known and loved came to a humiliating end!
  • Sing Over Me by Dennis Jernigan. Autobiography.  Dennis Jernigan is a Christian songwriter who wrote  "You Are My All In All"  "Since 1988 I've been publicly sharing the story of how I walked out of a perceived homosexual identity. Why? Because I remember being a boy wondering if freedom was possible. The church didn't have answers. The world didn't have answers. The gay community just tried to make me give up and accept this as my innate identity. Yet, something deep inside of me kept knocking at the door of my heart saying, 'There must be more. This cannot be your ultimate destiny and identity.' When God met me with the Truth of the transforming power of Jesus Christ, and I began what I call my incredible journey, I began to realize that I'd been lied to by the world and the philosophies of man. After seven years of freedom under my belt, the Lord asked me to begin publicly sharing my story because there were others out there who felt the same as I felt - that there must be more. This book is for those who want to experience God in an intimate, life-changing way, regardless of whether or not they've ever struggled with unwanted same-sex attraction. This is my story, yet really it's the story of redemption found in knowing Jesus Christ intimately.
  • Messy Grace by Caleb Kaltenbach Caleb Kaltenbach was raised by LGBT parents, marched in gay pride parades as a youngster, and experienced firsthand the hatred and bitterness of some Christians toward his family. But then Caleb surprised everyone, including himself, by becoming a Christian…and a pastor. Very few issues in Christianity are as divisive as the acceptance of the LGBT community in the church. As a pastor and as a person with beloved family members living a gay lifestyle, Caleb had to face this issue with courage and grace. Messy Grace shows us that Jesus’s command to “love your neighbor as yourself” doesn’t have an exception clause for a gay “neighbor”—or for that matter, any other “neighbor” we might find it hard to relate to. Jesus was able to love these people and yet still hold on to his beliefs. So can you. Even when it’s messy. CLICK HERE to watch a video of Caleb's journey.
  • Space at the Table  by Cab Brad Harper & Drew Stafford Harper     Can an evangelical theologian and his gay son overcome the differences in belief that threaten to destroy their relationship? For Brad and Drew Harper, that question wasn't theoretical–and neither was the resounding yes they found after years of struggle. Writing to each other with compassion, grit, and humor, Brad and Drew take us on their journey as parent and child from the churches of middle America to the penthouses of New York's party scenes, through a pastor's–kid childhood and painful conversion therapy to the hard–won victories of their adult relationship. 
  • But Space at the Table is more than just a memoir. It is a guide, showing us a way through the roadblocks that threaten to devastate both families and the broader evangelical and LBGTQ communities. Speaking from their own experience, Brad and Drew offer an invitation to join them in a place where love is stronger than the beliefs that divide us. 

  • The Truth Comes Out by Nancy Heche   This is the beginning of a beautiful love story Nancy wrote in her diary after meeting Don Heche, the man she was to marry. Five children and 25 years of marriage later, it seemed as if they were the perfect family. Then Don was diagnosed with AIDS—the shocking discovery of his homosexual secret. This was only the beginning of loss and heartache. Shortly after Don’s death, their 18-year-old son, Nathan, died in a car crash and Nancy fell into years of personal darkness. Eventually, as she was drawn into a long journey of growth and healing, her youngest daughter, Anne, began a very public lesbian love affair. Despite Nancy’s life circumstances, she held on to what she knew of God’s promises from Scripture and is discovering how to look at people and the world with God’s perspective through eyes full of love and blessing. Her inspiring story of faith and courage will offer hope to anyone who has ever been on the brink of despair or wondered how to respond with love to someone in a same-sex relationship.
  • Ministering to Gay Teenagers by Shawn Harrison    When it comes to ministering to gays and lesbians, far too many churches have chosen silence over service, or a reactive stance over proactive involvement.  Congregations must abandon their comfort zone and minister to a group of people who need to experience the love of Jesus in powerful, tangible ways.  With truths drawn from his own personal experiences, youth pastor Shawn Harrison seeks to equip youth workers, parents, and churches in ministering to gay teenagers, their families, and the gay community at-large. The church must not compromise truth, he says, but it should not withhold grace either. How gay students first encounter God personally and communally and how Christians react to them can determine subsequent steps in their faith journey.
    Ministering to Gay Teenagers is filled with wisdom and practical advice on how to respond when a student comes out and how to help the teenager's family through that journey, too. This book will equip leaders and parents with solid answers to the questions families ask.  And it will challenge youth workers and churches to consider how to practically serve and minister to a group of people who seek deep authenticity in love, character, truth, and presence. 
  • The Transparent Life by McKrae Game
    Secrets destroy families, relationships, and will stop personal growth. Too many people go through life wearing a mask of shame, terrified that if anyone knew the "real me," they would be shunned and alone. Unfortunately many churches and society tell us to keep our struggles, addictions, and pasts hidden. Hiding our problems will not make them go away. There is a way to be free from the shame and guilt. It begins by understanding The Transparent Life. Author McKrae Game is the president and founder of Hope for Wholeness Network. He lives a transparent life and his ministry has counseled countless men and women to begin their own healing by removing the mask and letting people in. This book is for anyone who desires to be free from struggles, addictions, and secrets.
  •  In 1987, an IRA bomb buried Gordon Wilson and his twenty-year-old daughter beneath five feet of rubble. Gordon alone survived. And forgave. He said of the bombers, "I have lost my daughter, but I bear no grudge. . . . I shall pray, tonight and every night, that God will forgive them." His words caught the media’s ear--and out of one man’s grief, the world got a glimpse of grace. Grace is the church’s great distinctive. It’s the one thing the world cannot duplicate, and the one thing it craves above all else--for only grace can bring hope and transformation to a jaded world. In What’s So Amazing About Grace? award-winning author Philip Yancey explores grace at street level. If grace is God’s love for the undeserving, he asks, then what does it look like in action? And if Christians are its sole dispensers, then how are we doing at lavishing grace upon a world that knows far more of cruelty and unforgiveness than it does of mercy? Yancey sets grace in the midst of life’s stark images, tests its mettle against horrific "ungrace." Can grace survive in the midst of such atrocities as the Nazi holocaust? Can it triumph over the brutality of the Ku Klux Klan? Should any grace at all be shown to the likes of Jeffrey Dahmer, who killed and cannibalized seventeen young men? Grace does not excuse sin, says Yancey, but it treasures the sinner. True grace is shocking, scandalous. It shakes our conventions with its insistence on getting close to sinners and touching them with mercy and hope. It forgives the unfaithful spouse, the racist, the child abuser. It loves today’s AIDS-ridden addict as much as the tax collector of Jesus’ day. In his most personal and provocative book ever, Yancey offers compelling, true portraits of grace’s life-changing power. He searches for its presence in his own life and in the church. He asks, How can Christians contend graciously with moral issues that threaten all they hold dear? And he challenges us to become living answers to a world that desperately wants to know, What’s So Amazing About Grace? 

 

PRAYER

How to pray for loves ones, especially when they are not too lovable!

1. FOCUS ON GOD, not on any problems. Consider Peter as he walked on the water. Matthew 14:22-23  Worship God for who He is and thank Him for the perfect plan He has for this person.

2. ASK GOD TO ALLOW YOU TO SEE THIS PERSON THROUGH HIS LOVING EYES. Consider the parables of the lost coin, the lost sheep, the lost son. Luke 15:1-24  God does not look at the outside of a person, but at his heart.  1 Samuel 16:7

3. THANK GOD FOR ALL OF THIS PERSON'S POTENTIALS, abilities, skills, gifts and endearing qualitites. (Everyone has some!) Psalm 139:13-16  "For you formed my inward parts; you covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.  My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned fo rme, When as yet there were none of them."

4. ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU A SPECIFIC PROMISE, Scripture verse, to claim in prayer for this person.  John 1:5-7  "If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you."

5. ASK GOD TO BLOCK SATAN'S PLANS against this person.  Luke 22:31-32  "Simon, Simon! Indeed, Satan has asked for you, that he may sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail; and when you have returned to ME, strengthen your brethren."

6. ASK GOD TO MAKE THIS PERSON OPEN AND RECEPTIVE TO GOD'S VOICE.  Romans 8:5-6  "For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit have their minds set on the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace." Revelation 3:20  "Behold, I have been standing at the door and continually knocking...."

7. ASK GOD TO USE ANY MEANS NECESSARY to dissolve this person's resistance to following the Holy Spirit's guidance. Romans 8:26 "Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered."  John 15:1-4  "The father prunes the branches so that they might produce good fruit."

8. ASK GOD TO BLESS THIS PERSON in the some specific way so that there will be no doubt in this person's mind that the blessing is from God.  1 Corinthians 2:9 "But , as it is written, 'What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him.'"

9. ASK GOD TO MAKE YOU WILLING TO DO WHATEVER HE ASKS you to do in the life of this person, including nothing! Psalm 32:8  "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with my eye."

 

WEB

  • Our desire is to shed light on the complicated issues of sexual and relational brokenness with special expertise on homosexuality and transgenderism. We hope you will find comfort and guidance through this ministry by a personal relationship with Jesus Christ,and through godly love demonstrated by God's people. We share the freedom in Christ we've experienced from homosexuality, transgenderism, and other forms of brokenness.  http://www.hopeforwholeness.org/

 

A six-part series looking at the cultural and scriptural point so view on topics of: Repentance, Cultural Acceptance, the Bible, Orientation and Desire, Gay Marriage and Going Forward.  Here scripture answers the challenges of our culture. 

  • ROSARIA CHAMPAGNE BUTTERFIELD, a former tenured professor of English and women's studies at Syracuse University, converted to Christ in 1999 in what she describes as a train wreck. Her memoir The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert chronicles that difficult journey. Rosaria is married to Kent, a Reformed Presbyterian pastor in North Carolina, and is a homeschool mother, author, and speaker. To watch her video entitled Repentance and Renewal, CLICK HERE.
  • LEAD THEM HOME: Loving LGBTQ Young People in the Church: an excellent organization offering information and support including a series of podcasts.

    In late 2003, LEAD THEM HOME began charting a new course for Christian ministry to LGBTQ persons and their families. The Church ignored the LGBTQ community when they were powerless. We often ignored their families, too. As LGBTQ people gained power in society, many para-church movements postured God against gay people. Although many evangelical pastors preach compassion and love as godly responses, other evangelical leaders did not convey much love at all. Some minority and extremist voices convey outright hatred toward LGBTQ persons as they purport to represent evangelicals. Yet let us not blame the extremists. We, too (historically speaking), invested heavily in the hope that we might win the Culture War.

    Beyond the Culture War, Christ is Calling...

    It's time we GO outside our churches to clarify the Gospel message and share the love of Christ within reach of LGBTQ communities; it's time we CARE for families in our churches who have LGBTQ loved ones; it's time we LET GO of the easy promises that same-sex attraction will go away. Instead, let's BUILD God's mission into people right where they are. It's time we value and protect the dignity of all LGBTQ persons. It's time we lead them home. Will you join us?

  • L.I.F.E. Ministry [Living In Freedom Eternally] has been in existence for over 25 years having been founded by Ron and Joanne Highley.  Life Ministry is a NewYork based Christian ministry to men and woman overcoming homosexuality through God's truth and power!
    Life Ministry
    PO BOX 353    
    New York, NY  10185
    (212) 768-2366  

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